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Benefits Of Simplifying Your Life Dramatically

Lai Han Sam · Sep 12, 2019 · Leave a Comment

Marie Kondo did not come up with a magic formula - granted she developed her own method for keeping her home clutter free - but by no means this is new. Yet with Netflix and great marketing, a petite Japanese woman took the world by storm with her book and the KonMari Method. "Kondo" is now a verb just like Google. Why? This is because we are all looking to tidy our space and as a result transform our lives, as promised on her website. We are looking for peace and joy. Peace, not just in …

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“What does one have to do to prove one’s love “What does one have to do to prove one’s love for another?”
- I’m Mita, Your Housekeeper

Love is not exactly a noun. It is a verb. This means that we need to take action. 

To show love, we need to do one thing only - that is to show up. Show up with 100% of ourselves for the ones we love. This is a tall order - since we don’t feel like showing up sometimes. If we do it regardless of how we feel, then that is how we show and prove love. 

#lifework #coach #loveisaverb #love #showup
“I think of death at least once a day. My own “I think of death at least once a day. 

My own death, my loved ones’ deaths and that of those who have passed on. I also think about the death of the spirit and the soul. It is the most sobering topic to think about for me. It helps me to come back to what is important and what is valuable in this lifetime. It is the fastest way to come back to the present. When things are not going well, I think more about death.”
- Finding Joy in Transitions

Death is part of the universe. Renewal comes after death. When trees lose their leaves in autumn and suffer death in the winter, it is only to come alive again in the spring. 

Are we ready to let go and accept the inevitable? How do we prepare so that we know no matter what comes next, we will come alive again?

#lifework #comealive #lifecomesafterdeath #purpose #growth
The Koi's law argues that a koi fish that is put o The Koi's law argues that a koi fish that is put on a bowl, it can only grow 5 – 8 cm in length; when taken to the pond, it grows from 12 – 25 cm. When the same fish is put into the river, it can grow to an amazing 90 cm to 120 cm.

This applies to the environment you work in. Is it a bowl, a pond or a river?

Never underestimate yourself. 

#lifework #growth #coaching #koislaw #careerdevelopment
Someone told me that the moment you give up, you b Someone told me that the moment you give up, you begin to look for excuses, but when you think you can do it, you’ll find a way to do it. - Teacher Kim, Dr Romantic

Some of my clients will bring both the problem and the excuse to our session. Most times they have given up trying - perhaps it is indeed very hard or in their hearts they have lost faith in themselves. They are only bringing it to the session to confirm it cannot be done. 

In our conversations, if we only tackle the surface problem, then it will only reinforce our helplessness. If we go to the heart of the matter - we have a fighting chance to solve it or accept it completely. If we find a way to trust and believe in our abilities to find a way, even if there is seemingly no way out, we will create a path to our future. 

#lifework #findawaynotanexcuse #transition #perseverance #coach
I have a client who often laments that she has a h I have a client who often laments that she has a heavy work load and she can’t possibly tell her manager that she cannot work past 6pm. As a result, she often feels regretful about the loss of her time with family or being not fully present with her children. After work, she is drained, feel obligated to continue to work overtime and don’t know how to find time to rest. Thus, the quality of her life and relationships deteriorated over time. 

During our sessions together, it is revealed that she often accepts all the work her manager assigns her without question. And since everything is urgent, she works overtime on many days to get the work done. It also dawned upon her that the workload never reduce no matter how hard she works! 

There was also a lot of fear around getting a bad performance review or getting pass over for a promotion. These are signs that the culture is not a fit for her. If she is afraid at work, perhaps it is time to think about what she really wants in her life and explore other opportunities. 

Her behaviour and handling of her boundaries taught her manager and colleagues how to treat her. As she is always breaking her own boundaries, she is giving others the permission to do the same.

In the end, she realised that: 
1. She needs to protect her own boundaries at work so that she can have a balanced and sustainable life. That responsibility is hers and to stop wasting energy complaining about the work or her manager. 

2. She does not have to carry the responsibilities of others. Often she wants to be seen as cooperative and nice, thus she would say yes to everything, even when it is not her responsibility. It is okay to say no.

3. Her bigger responsibility is to herself and to her family. That’s one of the big reasons why she work! So making sure she can continue working, feeling fulfilled and healthy in the long run benefits everyone!

#careercoachingforwomen #careertransitions #boundariesatwork #powerfulquestions #worklifebalance
During a coaching session with a senior leader, sh During a coaching session with a senior leader, she was apprehensive about her desire to transition into a new role in a different industry. She was also worried about the length of time she had spent in her current job and feared that she is rusty from the interviewing process. She was also concerned that she may be stereotyped from her current industry. 

As we talked, it was clear to her that her thinking around interviews stopped at when she first started as a fresh graduate rather than where she is at as an experienced senior leader. It was more about helping the interviewer see her as a suitable candidate - thus, the pressure to “sell” herself. It was also from the position of scarcity instead of abundance. 

At the end of the session, she realised that:
1. I don’t need a new job, I want a new experience. Thus, I can enjoy the interview process rather than focus on the outcome. This helps me to relax and be the best version of myself. 

2. This is a 2 way process. The interviewer is interviewing me and I am also evaluating the role. It is important to understand the partnership and expectations clearly. I see it as a conversation rather than an interview. 

3. I am enough. I have a lot to contribute and I don’t have to be able to do 100% of the role in order to take it on. I have a positive attitude towards growth and learning so I will succeed with a suitable role in any organisation. 

#careercoachingforwomen #careertransitions #interviews #powerfulquestions #leadership

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