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How do you know if you have succeeded?

Lai Han Sam · Jul 24, 2017 · Leave a Comment

I was at a work discussion when this question was asked.

“How do you know if you have succeeded?”

Indeed how do I know? How would I know if I have been successful as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, work? How would I know if I have succeeded as a person?

That was something I was still thinking about on my way home that day. Was there a ruler, a measure of sorts that would tell me I have succeeded?

What does success even means? In God’s eyes? In society’s eyes? In mine?

Am I successful now?

I thought long and hard and I came to the conclusion that I have always been successful. Sure I fail plenty – but most times, I have been successful. Success is not a destination – it is the journey, it is in every single thing that I do, in everything I believe in. The evidence is there if I just look hard enough.

I know I have succeeded when my teenage son welcome me home with a hug.
I know I have succeeded when my husband says “I love you!”
I know I have succeeded when my daughter’s message on a home-made card tells me I have made a difference in her life.
I know I have succeeded when my father ask me to help him write a letter.
I know I have succeeded when my younger sons want me to read “another” bedtime story.
I know I have succeeded when my girlfriend calls me for lunch just to talk.
I know I have succeeded when my boss pats me on the back and says, “Well done!”
I know I have succeeded when my mother buys me mangosteens because I love them.
I know I have succeeded when complete strangers tell me what an inspiration I am to them.
I know I have succeeded when the last thing I do everyday is to give thanks to God.

What about you? How do you know if you have succeeded?

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